I have a chapter in my new book, “Diet Disruption.” It’s titled “It’s Not Your Fault.” There are so many women who tell me that people think they’re lazy or they get treated differently when they’re overweight versus having lost weight or when they were thinner.
I want to know if you agree or disagree. I have found in talking to women there is so much shame and blame placed on women who are overweight. What do you think? Is it your fault that you’re overweight?
I have a strong opinion on this and I’m going to share because I think it matters. It’s something that doesn’t get talked about enough. I don’t think it’s your fault; there is so much misinformation out there. I think that a woman has been made to often feel so much shame and personal responsible. There has been a lack of compassion. We have lack of true knowledge. What would it take to either stay at your right weight or to actually lose weight in a healthy way? By healthy way, I mean in a way that you’re not having to rely on injections, low calorie diets, eating fake food, any of the stuff that women do to lose weight in a quick way.
I’m not talking about that. When I talk about healthy, I talk about losing weight in a way that you can trust. You’re going to keep it off forever. What I share in the chapter “It’s Not Your Fault” is precisely that; it’s NOT your fault.
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This also means knowing why you’re overweight in the first place. When you start asking better questions, you actually start to find better answers, start to find the real solutions to the problems.
Often, we’re just staying on the surface level and get frustrated. In this chapter, I discuss three things at play.
One is your metabolism has not caught up with how food is now produced.
When convenient, processed, fast, and junk foods started to get manufactured in the 1950’s and 1960’s, they were meant as occasional fair.
That was also the time that women were going more into the workforce and these foods became very convenient; they tasted good. Although, they were not being created with your waistline in mind. They just weren’t. Then over the late 1980s, ’90s and early 2000s, everything got bigger.
It became the bigger, the better. Your metabolism has never caught up with that. Now we’re at a place where we’ve traded our health for convenience. We’re carrying extra weight on our bodies and we don’t know what to do.
The dieting industry has now become a $70 billion industry.
There are so many factors that play a role in being overweight.
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I could absolutely 100% promise you that if you choose to not change, then that is a personal responsibility and a choice. What it’s not Your Fault is that if you’ve tried dieting before and have failed, what I want you to get is understand that you haven’t failed at weight loss; the tactic you’ve tried has failed you.
The dieting methods out there are failing you. You’re NOT a failure.
I say this in my book, “Diet Disruption.”
I’m a big proponent that sometimes we have to call a spade a spade and say, “What I’m doing isn’t working.”
It doesn’t mean you’re a failure – (It’s Not Your Fault.) We depersonalize the result. Instead, ask yourself, “What else could I do instead?” Often women come to me when they have a shred of hope left. They’ve tried all these things, failure’s been there, weight’s come off, come right back on again. Yet, there’s a feeling that this can’t be it.
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You’ve got to be willing to let go of what you’ve done. You need start to look for new ways to promote change in your life. Weight loss does not happen until you get to the root of what is really going on in you.
Sometimes it means recognizing that you’ve been preoccupied. You’ve been too busy to plan. Too busy to think about your health. You are hoping to do the next quick, easy fad diet because you’re desperate.
Let’s start to disrupt the diet industry!
Disrupt the way of thinking about health and weight loss in your own mind so that you don’t fall right back into the same habits and patterns that didn’t get you to where you want to go. Really start to seek true change.
Start asking yourself deeper questions and you will find the answers.
We need to interrupt patterns instead of staying off the wagon for days, weeks, or months on end. Give yourself some compassion. Say to yourself: “I slipped.” Now what matters most is what happens in this next 10 minutes. Skip the punishing, the guilt, blame, shame, and regret cycle.
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Make tonight the night where you make a different choice for yourself. Ask more powerful questions. Dive a little bit deeper into figuring out the real answers about what’s going on with you. Tomorrow you get to start fresh.
This is how you get to do it. It’s one small change. One better question, one better decision at a time. Sometimes you’re going to have to recommit to yourself over and over. I do. It’s easy to get off track. It could be just as easy to get back on track again.
Without a plan to take you to your destination and to help you reach your goals you’re operating on default and old habits.
A new plan will allow you to have new habits, which will allow you to create something different.
We are the sum of our habits. Change one little thing every day, be consistent and you will change.
Hopefully that gives you some inspiration!
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Jennifer Powter, MSc, CSEP-CEP, CPCC
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